Child Support Mediation Santa Barbara

Child Support Mediation

Children are financially dependent on their parents, and (with a few exceptions) parents are required to support their children until they reach the age of 18. California has a complicated formula for child support, which may or may not meet the actual needs of the parents and the children.

In mediation, the parents decide for themselves the best way to meet their children’s needs, which might include such creative ideas as: a joint “children’s account” that can be accessed by both parents; dividing responsibility for certain expenses; sharing certain expenses in agreed proportions; and many others that would not be possible if the parties were in court. With the help of a mediator, parents can also resolve other issues that a court wouldn't address and which might otherwise be contentious later on, such as how to pay for college or vocational training, weddings, extracurricular activities, etc. And by staying out of court, the parties will have more money left to use for themselves and their children.

Studies have shown that when parents resolve child support issues out of court, on consent of both parties, there is greater compliance with the resulting agreement. This means that the parents don't have to worry about how their children's needs will, in fact, be met, or whether the other parent is holding up his/her end of the bargain.  Money not spent in court trying to enforce agreements is more money available for the parents and the children.

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Negotiate in Mediation for What You Need -- And Get It.

Negotiate in Mediation for What You Need -- And Get It.
By Robin Masson on Jul 22, 2017 in Divorce Mediation

Face it: most of us are not very good at asking others for what we need. We tend to come off as either too aggressive or wishy-washy. Moreover, when we’re in conflict, our asking skills tend to deteriorate into either demanding bitchiness or passive-aggressiveness that descends into resentment. Not a good look, on anyone.

But, there’s a way to ask for what you need and to enlist others in giving it to you, by being respectfully assertive. It requires communicating clearly what your needs are, how others’ behavior affects you, and enlists others in satisfying your needs.

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Cohabitation Mediation - What I Wish I'd Known Before Moving in Together

Cohabitation Mediation - What I Wish I'd Known Before Moving in Together
By Robin Masson on Jun 09, 2017 in Cohabitation Mediation

Much less planning goes into cohabitation than into a wedding, but it is, in many ways, a bigger legal, financial and emotional step.

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Divorce Mediation - The Orange: A Parable About Interest-Based Negotiation

Divorce Mediation - The Orange: A Parable About Interest-Based Negotiation
By Robin Masson on Jun 01, 2017 in Divorce Mediation

Nick and Nora were separating and couldn’t agree upon who should get the orange. Since there was only one orange, it appeared that the “fair” solution (and the one most likely to be imposed if they were in court) would be for them to slice it in half, and each would get half an orange.

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