Cohabitation Mediation Santa Barbara

Cohabitation Mediation

An increasing number of couples are choosing to live together without getting married. What they may not think about is what consequences flow from the very act of cohabiting, and the difficulties that can arise if the couple breaks up or one partner dies: who keeps the house or apartment if you split; how does the property get divided; will the survivor inherit anything if a partner dies, or will it all go to the dead partner’s family; if one partner has stayed out of the workforce to care for children or the other partner, will there be any support if they split; etc.

Couples Living Together

Cohabitation Mediation for Couples Living together in Santa Barbara

I have extensive experience working with gay, lesbian, and straight couples who choose to live together without marriage, or who are unable to be married. I help clients arrive at agreements that will give them the protections that the law does not otherwise provide. When domestic partners separate, I can assist them to sort out those same issues and the legal consequences of their separation.

Testimonials

Robin helped to make a very difficult situation as smooth a transition as possible through her thorough knowledge and especially through her formidable interpersonal talents, creative solutions and negotiating skills. Throughout the emotionally arduous divorce process, I felt like I had a smart, powerful and determined advocate working with me to achieve the best possible positive outcome. And the voodoo divorce goddess on Robin's desk was a welcome inspiration too!
Pia Cryztal, VP Creative Services
Smith Marketing Services

Articles

Negotiate in Mediation for What You Need -- And Get It.

Negotiate in Mediation for What You Need -- And Get It.
By Robin Masson on Jul 22, 2017 in Divorce Mediation

Face it: most of us are not very good at asking others for what we need. We tend to come off as either too aggressive or wishy-washy. Moreover, when we’re in conflict, our asking skills tend to deteriorate into either demanding bitchiness or passive-aggressiveness that descends into resentment. Not a good look, on anyone.

But, there’s a way to ask for what you need and to enlist others in giving it to you, by being respectfully assertive. It requires communicating clearly what your needs are, how others’ behavior affects you, and enlists others in satisfying your needs.

Read more...

Cohabitation Mediation - What I Wish I'd Known Before Moving in Together

Cohabitation Mediation - What I Wish I'd Known Before Moving in Together
By Robin Masson on Jun 09, 2017 in Cohabitation Mediation

Much less planning goes into cohabitation than into a wedding, but it is, in many ways, a bigger legal, financial and emotional step.

Read more...

Divorce Mediation - The Orange: A Parable About Interest-Based Negotiation

Divorce Mediation - The Orange: A Parable About Interest-Based Negotiation
By Robin Masson on Jun 01, 2017 in Divorce Mediation

Nick and Nora were separating and couldn’t agree upon who should get the orange. Since there was only one orange, it appeared that the “fair” solution (and the one most likely to be imposed if they were in court) would be for them to slice it in half, and each would get half an orange.

Read more...