Divorce Mediation Santa Barbara

Divorce Mediation

The decision to end a marriage is not made lightly, and often follows a long period of unhappiness and conflict. There are numerous issues that need to be resolved, including:  dividing property, who is responsible for which debts, how each adult and child is going to be supported, how the children will be parented, and where the family pets go.

By choosing litigation to end a marriage, spouses are likely in for another year or more of fighting, not to mention tens of thousands of dollars spent on lawyers, only to have the case eventually settle without going to trial (many cases settle, literally, the night before the trial is to begin). Why not, instead, choose to resolve the matter with mediation, a process that is designed for efficient settlement from Day 1?

As a mediator, I can help divorcing couples determine what information needs to be gathered, and will guide the discussion of all topics in a productive and respectful manner. Using interest-based negotiation techniques, I help the parties move beyond the “zero sum game” to enlarge the pie so that each person is able to get more of what is important to him/her, rather than fighting over a limited number of conventional options available in litigation. The result is an outcome that is completely tailored to the needs of the adults and children in the family.

The pace of the process and the agenda for each meeting are determined by the clients, not the court or attorneys’ calendars. Clients may choose to have their attorneys present during mediation, or to obtain their legal advice outside of the mediation room. If additional expertise is needed, such as property appraisals or tax advice, Robin will work with other professionals so that, in the end, everyone is able to make fully informed decisions on an agreement that will stand the test of time.

Testimonials

As a financial planner with a focus on trust and estate planning, I find that clients I have referred to Robin are very satisfied with her ability to listen and develop plans that meet their needs. This together with prompt action on their documents allows me to give a very strong recommendation for her.
Robert Jewell, Trust Officer
Community Bank, N.A.

Articles

Negotiate in Mediation for What You Need -- And Get It.

Negotiate in Mediation for What You Need -- And Get It.
By Robin Masson on Jul 22, 2017 in Divorce Mediation

Face it: most of us are not very good at asking others for what we need. We tend to come off as either too aggressive or wishy-washy. Moreover, when we’re in conflict, our asking skills tend to deteriorate into either demanding bitchiness or passive-aggressiveness that descends into resentment. Not a good look, on anyone.

But, there’s a way to ask for what you need and to enlist others in giving it to you, by being respectfully assertive. It requires communicating clearly what your needs are, how others’ behavior affects you, and enlists others in satisfying your needs.

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Cohabitation Mediation - What I Wish I'd Known Before Moving in Together

Cohabitation Mediation - What I Wish I'd Known Before Moving in Together
By Robin Masson on Jun 09, 2017 in Cohabitation Mediation

Much less planning goes into cohabitation than into a wedding, but it is, in many ways, a bigger legal, financial and emotional step.

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Divorce Mediation - The Orange: A Parable About Interest-Based Negotiation

Divorce Mediation - The Orange: A Parable About Interest-Based Negotiation
By Robin Masson on Jun 01, 2017 in Divorce Mediation

Nick and Nora were separating and couldn’t agree upon who should get the orange. Since there was only one orange, it appeared that the “fair” solution (and the one most likely to be imposed if they were in court) would be for them to slice it in half, and each would get half an orange.

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