Divorce Mediation Santa Barbara

Divorce Mediation

The decision to end a marriage is not made lightly, and often follows a long period of unhappiness and conflict. There are numerous issues that need to be resolved, including:  dividing property, who is responsible for which debts, how each adult and child is going to be supported, how the children will be parented, and where the family pets go.

By choosing litigation to end a marriage, spouses are likely in for another year or more of fighting, not to mention tens of thousands of dollars spent on lawyers, only to have the case eventually settle without going to trial (many cases settle, literally, the night before the trial is to begin). Why not, instead, choose to resolve the matter with mediation, a process that is designed for efficient settlement from Day 1?

As a mediator, I can help divorcing couples determine what information needs to be gathered, and will guide the discussion of all topics in a productive and respectful manner. Using interest-based negotiation techniques, I help the parties move beyond the “zero sum game” to enlarge the pie so that each person is able to get more of what is important to him/her, rather than fighting over a limited number of conventional options available in litigation. The result is an outcome that is completely tailored to the needs of the adults and children in the family.

The pace of the process and the agenda for each meeting are determined by the clients, not the court or attorneys’ calendars. Clients may choose to have their attorneys present during mediation, or to obtain their legal advice outside of the mediation room. If additional expertise is needed, such as property appraisals or tax advice, Robin will work with other professionals so that, in the end, everyone is able to make fully informed decisions on an agreement that will stand the test of time.


Robin provided a very no nonsense approach to the sticky business of Divorce, for my ex-husband and Me. She understood that we got along well enough to discuss the custody of our three children---on OUR own terms. She navigated our differences regarding our Home​ so that we had a flexible and comfortable agreement for selling a home which we had built ourselves. She really heard our nuanced desires, and how we envisioned ourselves in the future.

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